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第40章 思想的守望者 (7)

However, with kids (especially at an early age), when they fall down, they don’t perceive their falling down as failure, but instead, they treat it as a learning experience (as just another result/outcome). They feel compelled to try and try again until they succeed. (The answer must be... they have not associated “falling down” with the word “failure” yet, thus they don’t know how to feel the state accompanies failure. As a result, they are not disempowered in anyway. Plus, they probably think to themselves that it’s perfectly okay to fall down, that it’s not wrong to do so. In other words, they give themselves permission to make mistakes, subconsciously. Thus they remain empowered.) While I was touched by the boys persistence, I was equally touched by the manner in he ran. With each attempt, he looked so confident... so natural. No signs of fear, nervousness, or of being discouraged—as if he didn’t give a care about the world around him.

His only aim was to run freely and to do it as effectively as he could. He was just being a child—just being himself—being completely in the moment. He was not looking for approval or was not worrying about whether someone was watching or not. He wasn’t concerned about being judged. He didn’t seem to be bothered by the fact that maybe someone would see him fall (as there were others in the park aside from him and his mother) and that it would be embarrassing if he did fall. No, all that mattered to him was to accomplish the task or activity at hand to the best of his ability. To run... and to feel the experience of running fully and freely. I learned a lot from that observation and experience, and have successfully brought that lesson with me in my many pursuits in life.

Since then, I’ve always believed that in each of us is a little child with absolute courage. A child that has the ability to run freely (or express himself fully and freely)—without a care for anything external —without a care for what people would say if he/she experiences a fall. I believe that that courageous part of us, that courageous child within us all, will always be with us for as long as we live. We only need to allow it to emerge more fully. We only need to once again connect with that child within us—and give that child permission to run freely, just like that boy in the park.

多年前,有一天下午,我去接妈妈下班。到了那儿后,时间还有些早。于是,我把车子停在路边,在她工作单位的街对面等着。

我从右侧的车窗往外望去,看见一个小公园里有一个小男孩,大约一岁半到两岁之间。他正在草地上自由奔跑,他的妈妈在附近注视着他。小男孩笑得非常灿烂,好像刚从某种监禁中释放出来一样。偶尔,他在草地上摔倒了,但又毫不犹豫地爬起来继续跑,也不回头看他的妈妈,就像什么也没发生过似的,仍面带微笑地继续以最快的速度奔跑。

对于小孩子来说(尤其是幼童),当他们摔倒在地,并不认为那是失败。相反,他们会像对待学习经验一样(或者只是另一种结果甚至成就),不断地去尝试,直到成功(原因一定是他们并不把“摔倒”与“失败”联系起来,他们并不知道如何去感受这种情形伴随而来的失败。所以,无论如何,他们都不会有挫败感。另外,他们可能认为自己摔倒也没什么,这样并没有什么错。换言之,在他们的潜意识里,容许自己犯错。这样,他们总是充满活力)。小男孩的坚持打动了我,他奔跑的方式也同样令我深深地感动。他的每一次尝试,看起来都那么自信,那么自如,没有一丝恐惧、紧张或气馁——好像对他周围的世界毫不在意。

自由奔跑是他唯一的目标,他只是尽全力地去跑。他只是一个孩子——在那个时刻,完完全全地表现他真正的自我。他没有寻求称赞,也不担心是否有人在看着他,更不在乎他人的评判。他看上去并不为自己摔倒可能会被别人看到而感到难堪(因为在公园里,他和妈妈旁边还有其他人)。他全心全意地去完成任务,或者说尽最大的能力完成手头上的活动,去奔跑……全身心地去感受自由自在的奔跑。从那次观察及其感受中,我得到了很多启示,并把这些启示成功地运用到我的许多人生追求当中。

从那以后,我总是相信,我们每一个人都有一颗绝对勇敢的童心。一个孩子能全心投入地自由奔跑(或毫不掩饰地表现真我)——对外在环境毫不在意——即使摔倒,对别人的言论也毫不在意。我相信,我们都有这样的勇气,都有这样一颗勇敢的童心,这种勇敢会伴随我们一生。我们只要全身心投入地表露出来,只要再次连接这颗童心——让孩子般的宽大放任身心自由奔跑,就像公园里的那个小男孩一样。

1. The boy had a big_________on his face as if he had just been set_________from some sort of prison. The boy would then_________to the grass, get up, and without hesitation or without looking back at his mother, run as_________as he could, again, still with a smile on his face, as if nothing had .

2. While I was_________by the boys persistence, I was equally touched by the_________in he ran. With each attempt, he looked so confident... so natural. No signs of , nervousness, or of being discouraged—as if he didn’t give a care about the world_________him.

3. Since , I’ve always believed that in each of us is a little_________with absolute courage.

1. 当他们摔倒在地,并不认为那是失败。相反,他们会像对待学习经验一样。

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2. 自由奔跑是他唯一的目标,他只是尽全力地去跑。

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3. 我总是相信,我们每一个人都有一颗绝对勇敢的童心。

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1. I parked the car by the curb, across the street from where she worked, and waited for her.

wait for:等候,等待

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2. ...running freely on the grass as his mother watched from a short distance.

from a distance:从远处;隔开一段距离(或时间)

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领悟人生

Word of Wisdom

佚名 / Anonymous

I’ve learned that sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I’ve learned that the Lord didn’t do it all in one day. What makes me think I can?

I’ve learned that love, not time, heals all wounds .

I’ve learned that everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.

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